Don't let girls abuse you but be useful!

In my last post about how to get intimate with women on the web, I was telling what men do wrong. Today, I want to talk about what women do wrong as well as the fact that there is still hope.

I should agree on the fact that not all women are angels. Well, we are neither angel nor evil. This holds valid for both men and women.

Some women tend to use men and some men like to be abused by women. And then there are other men, who just don't get that they are being used.

On one hand, we want men that are just useful and there is nothing wrong with that. That doesn't mean we are here to use you. It just means that we need men. It is out of this need that we use men, not out of an evil habit to abuse people. By being useful, I mean things that are easy for men to do but not that easy for women to do. Doing some of the house chores like repairs is not something many girls are talented at. Men are more talented in this. Carrying heavy weight while shopping is not something a girl can handle easily but for men, this is easier.

On the other hand, there are women who are accustomed to use men for other things, especially emotional benefits. Unfortunately, I have seen many women who abuse men emotionally just to please themselves. My word is simple: stay away from those women who tend to abuse you emotionally.

A girlfriend who wants you to repair something at her home or carry some bags for her is not abusing you. She just honestly needs that. However, a girlfriend who does not remember birthday and tends to engage in a heavy discussion with you when you don't remember hers is committing emotional abuse. This simply means that she doesn't love herself and seeks this necessary self-love in other places instead of looking inside.

In a healthy relationship, people "use" each other practically (not emotionally) and that's pretty normal and a good thing too. When it comes to emotional abuse, that's calling for disaster for both sides.

How would you turn this knowledge into an advantage?

When you like a woman or you are in love with a woman, try to be useful for her. This will build intimacy and trust. With some experience, you will easily understand whether she wants to abuse you emotionally or not. You can check that. I'll try to give more examples on that if you wish.

So, I think that's sufficient for a weekend :) ... and coming soon: how to create a romantic environment in any place any time!

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How to get intimate with women on the web?

Nowadays, I hang out on Social Me, a wonderful application where you tag people. I am having a great time and having new friends. However, I decided to note some of the things that men do wrong. I am hopeful to be helpful :)

Well, when you hang out on a place like Social Me, obviously you are up for some social interaction. That includes messaging and flirting. And that's it. Of course there can be real life arrangements out of this, but if you can't handle it online, how can you handle it in real life. So, here are a couple of key points I want to present.

Asking for msn and webcam immediately

Why would anybody do that in the first place? Are you that desperate? And believe me, in fact there is no difference when a woman gives you her msn address immediately and opens her webcam and you see any video over the web. That's not intimacy, and your pleasure also depends on intimacy exactly like women.

Moreover, women need security while it comes to contact. It doesn't feel secure to ask for an msn address and webcam immediately after having said hello. Think about that.

Asking too much questions and waiting immediate answers

That's another big problem. Anybody surfing the net is distributing her time accross more than one window. Apart from that, we have also daily routines like standing up, going to kitchen, taking a coffee and coming back in front of the computer. These take time. So, when you ask a stupid question and wait for an immediate answer, that's just waste of time. You claim that you want to know more about this woman but in fact you just need affection. You seek affection in immediate answers to your silly questions. That's desperate. Instead, keep cool and wait. Do something else.

Trying to create reasons for adding somebody in your facebook friendslist.

Don't be shy and don't think you need hundreds of reasons to contact a girl. Be plain.

Putting your appearance forth instead of your mind and soul

That's another big problem. Women are not as much attached to physical beauty as men are. Emphasize your knowledge, passion, credibility. Your look is not as important as you think. Who our are and your mind and your soul is more important. Your pleasure may be dependent on your eyes but ours is not the same. Our pleasure not depends on what we see but what we hear. So, talk nicely and meaningful.

Those are some points that comes into my mind so far. I'll try to add more later.